Feel like you’re alone, no one understands you or like you just don’t fit in anywhere?
Almost everyone feels like that at some point in their lives. Some more than others. Part of why we feel that way is because we are not being authentic to ourselves. This is difficult to do because we are told we need to fit a specific mold to be part of modern society. Some of don’t fit that image because we are meant to be something different.
There are some extreme examples of being different, someone with an obvious birth defect or is missing a limb, has a lot of tattoos or piercings, etc. There are other subtler ways to be different as well, such as having an opposing viewpoint from your loved ones, following your heart when society tells you you shouldn’t. We have all been in situations when we paused to think “What should I do?” rather than trusting our instincts.
I have just finished reading Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging by Brene Brown. She offered this amazing acronym for learning to trust yourself again. BRAVING
Boundaries – Did I respect my own boundaries? Was I clear about what’s okay and what’s not okay?
Reliability – Was I reliable? Did I do what I said I was going to do?
Accountability – Did I hold myself accountable?
Vault – Did I respect the vault and share appropriately?
Integrity – Did I act from my integrity?
Nonjudgement – Did I ask for what I needed? Was I non judgmental about needing help?
Generosity – Was I generous toward myself?
The research this book is based on is critical in today’s society where so many of us have been marginalized because we do not fit the mold that we have been expected to fit into. I hope that moving forward this acronym will help you to trust your instincts.
If you would like to read more of Brene Brown’s work start here.